Your intentions and motivations tell you who you are. For most of us, we don’t have sufficient awareness to know what our intentions and motivations are. We are like automatons, moving through our day and through life, mindlessly repeating daily habits. Ask yourself, what motivates me? Is it money and financial success? Sexual adventures and conquests? Is it drink and drugs? Junk food or TV and social media? Or is it compassion, giving and sharing, generosity, helping others, looking after others, gratitude, exercise, mindfulness?
Whatever your motivations, the point is not to pass judgement on yourself but to become aware, as a first step, of your motivations. Awareness of your motivations is a key to mental and physical health. Once you become aware of your motivations, you can begin the process of determining whether or not they serve you well. For example, if you are motivated by financial success, becoming aware of your motivation will allow to see whether the pursuit of money is brining you the happiness you seek.
Therefore, start becoming aware of what motivates you. This can be very specific. When you wake up in the morning ask yourself, “what motivates me”? When you go to work ask yourself “what motivates me?” When you have lunch ask yourself what motivates me?”
It may be helpful to write down some of your observations.
Once you have identified what motivates you, the next step would be to ask if the motivation has brought you the happiness you have been seeking. For example, if you’re motivated by fast food, see how you feel after you have eaten a Big Mac and a large bowl of fries. It may taste good at the time but how do you feel afterwards? How does the extra weight that you carry from eating all that fast food make you feel? Does it affect your sleep? Does it affect your productivity at work? Perhaps, perhaps not. The key is to become aware of how you feel.
Becoming aware of your motivations and how they make you feel gives you a powerful choice. You can then choose to continue with the motivation or you can choose to change it. Of course, changing your motivations and the ingrained habits that they have carved is not easy. But awareness is the key that empowers you to choose.